Talking to a girl who wasn’t very attractive in college doesn’t make you feel very shy! But talking to a beautiful girl makes you shy. Even if the girl wants to talk to you, you don’t want to go forward. Love someone but don’t be shy!
But why does this happen? The reason is that we feel shy in situations where we lack competence or confidence in the situation. So, if this shyness cannot be overcome, you will lose your favorite girl, as well as your favorite career or job.
We always judge the people we face. At the same time, we start comparing ourselves to them. Then we either put them down or lift them up. We don’t feel very shy talking to those we consider less qualified than us.
But we are shy about talking to those we consider more qualified than ourselves. This can be solved in two ways. For example, the first way is to consider the other person as your equal. That is, no one is bigger than me, nor smaller.
The second way is to imagine yourself as the best of all. The first approach demonstrates confidence, whereas the second demonstrates overconfidence.
Confidence is good, but overconvenience is not good. Now, let’s discover how to build genuine confidence so you can stop feeling inferior and start seeing yourself as equal to everyone around you. Let’s learn about some easy ideas.
Idea Number 1: Am I right?
Suppose you went to college. That beautiful girl is sitting next to you. As you’re walking, you notice a pen slip out of a girl’s bag. You instinctively want to return it, but fear takes over. “What if she thinks I’m a creep? What if she judges me?”
So, you walk away without saying a word. What will happen then?” The truth is, this happens because you’re overthinking the situation. The opposite could also happen. Maybe the girl will be happy about you.
So, you must stop overthinking. Ask yourself, “Am I really right?” “Am I doing the right thing?” As long as you’re doing what’s right, don’t let other people’s opinions hold you back. You wanted to help her with good intentions.
But if she misunderstands your intentions, that’s her responsibility—not yours. You have done what you thought was right and proper. So there is no room for shame or embarrassment in doing good deeds.
There are many people who are ashamed to ask the name of a product when they go to a shop. Look, brother, there is nothing to be ashamed of. You will buy the product with money, the shopkeeper is sitting with the product to sell it.
You have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. When you feel ashamed in any situation, ask yourself questions.
And by asking questions in this way, you will be able to reduce the pile of excessive thoughts going on within you. As a result, you will stop feeling ashamed.
Idea Number 2: Appropriate Clothing And Hygiene
An American professor conducted research to understand how much clothing affects our behavior.
He conducted various studies with his students. He noticed that when students performed on stage wearing the costumes of various superheroes, they had a lot of confidence.
But when they were given math tests wearing swimming costumes, most of them could not show the expected success.
You have also noticed this yourself. Wearing beautiful clothes according to the situation brings a different kind of confidence in you.
So we have to be very attentive to our dressing sense. How to improve my dressing sense? Let’s know some important tips.
First, The dress should fit properly—neither too tight nor too loose. A properly fitting dress is needed.
Second, Wear an outfit that fits the occasion. For example, you went out with friends. But you are wearing a dress for a viva. Then you will feel uncomfortable after meeting your friends.
Third, The dress you wear must be clean and odor-free.
Fourth, It will look more appropriate if you wear a dress that matches your skin color. I also follow these rules.
Now Let’s Learn About Hygiene:
Your nails, hair, and beard should always be neat. It doesn’t matter whether you have fair or dark skin. The main thing is that you are always clean and tidy. Because if a fair-skinned person has unclean teeth, people will not take them seriously.
On the other hand, if a dark-skinned person follows hygiene and is clean and tidy, they will be able to create a separate value among people.
If you follow proper dress and hygiene, you will develop confidence within yourself. This confidence will help you overcome shyness.
Idea number 3: Practice
You have never given a speech in front of 5 people. Now, if you are asked to give a speech in front of a seminar full of people, you will definitely feel shy. Because you have no experience in such situations.
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Experience comes through practice. And confidence is gained through experience. Instead of running away from the situations you are afraid to face, try to face them little by little. If you want to talk to the girl you like, follow the above two ideas and speak up bravely.
What will happen if you talk? The girlfriends might laugh a little. So what? It’s not bad if someone laughs at you a little!
Let’s summarize today’s discussion
To reduce overthinking, repeatedly question yourself. Dress appropriately and maintain good hygiene. Instead of running away from situations, face them little by little.
An important message is, “If you can believe in your flyness, you can conquer your shyness!”
