Are you suffering with Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself? We can maintain our good habits for a while. After a few days, we can’t hold onto those anymore. Laziness sets in. Then we think, let’s take a break today.
We’ll do it again starting tomorrow. But it’s not possible to continue from tomorrow. The simple truth is, the more bad habits you have in your life, the more toxic your life will become.
And the more good habits you can build, the more beautiful life you can build.In today’s episode, we will discuss how we can give up a bad habit or build a good habit within 30 days.
I will discuss this topic from Hal Elrod’s book ‘The Miracle Morning’. So let’s get to the main discussion.
Idea number 1: One Habit Rule
One of the main theories of this book is the S.A.V.E.R.S. method. Six habits are explained with six letters. The full form of these six letters is, S = Silence, A = Affirmation, V = Visualization, E = Exercise, R = Reading, S = Scribing.
The first part of today’s article has been discussed. You can read the previous article first if you want. Many people may have started practicing all 6 methods together.
Although they get good energy to practice for a few days, it is now disappearing. In fact, instead of mastering all 6 habits together, according to the author, you have to follow the one habit rule.
Because it is a very difficult task to build all habits together. You must be patient.Therefore, you must first start with one habit. What is troubling you the most right now? Can’t you exercise?
Can’t you concentrate on your studies? Can’t you quit smoking? You have to identify the biggest problem first.
Then you have to find ways to solve that problem by building or giving up habits.
Then you have to master that habit first. Let’s see an example. Suppose all the examples of problems I gave are your problems. Then you have to choose any one of these 3 problems first.
Then you have to change it using the 30-day habit challenge method. Next month, another problem. The next month, the remaining 1 problem.
EYou will want to change all the habits at once. But don’t do that. Because it’s a trap.
Idea number 2: Zero Doubts
Suppose you have started changing a habit. Now, after 4 or 5 days, your mind will stop you! Then it will tell you, “Why are you hurting yourself? “Why are you doing all this?”
Your mind may trick you into feeling confused and wanting to give up the habit. To get rid of this problem, you need to prepare paper beforehand.
We will call this paper the “Why Sheet.” Actually, when we want to change a habit, doubts arise in our minds. We wonder, will I be able to do it? Will I benefit from changing the habit, etc.?
Along with this, when positive results are not found after 2 to 3 days, the doubts in our minds become stronger.
It is scientifically proven that if you try to make a habit for 21 days, a result starts to come from it.
But by then, a strong doubt or suspicion arises in our minds that we decide to give up that habit within just 5 to 7 days.So, before building or giving up a habit, you have to take 1 day.
Then, all the information, facts, positive or negative aspects, etc. about that habit should be recorded. You have to be doubtless.
If you can’t do this, you don’t need to start. For example: You want to quit smoking.
Now your job will be to take a day off. Then, read about the bad aspects of smoking. Search Google and see the gruesome images of cancer.
Learn about the physical harms, read articles about the harmful aspects of smoking, etc.
Continue this until you are no longer afraid of cigarettes. Three days after developing this new habit, doubts will start to arise in your mind. Then your “why sheet” will come in handy. Read this sheet several times and scare your mind.
When your mind is afraid, it will automatically quiet down.
Idea Number 3: 30-Day Challenge
The author, Elrod, believes that it takes us 30 days to change or alter any habit. And in those 30 days, we have to go through 3 steps. The first step is unbearable. Its duration is the first 10 days.
It is most difficult to overcome these 10 days. For example: if you want to quit smoking, you have to fight against yourself for the first 10 days.
Then you will feel like you are suffering in hell. Then you may feel that it is not possible for me to give up this habit.
But then you have to read the ‘The why’ sheet. You have to look at all the harmful aspects of smoking. From this, you will get the strength to fight with your mind.
If you can overcome these 10 days, then half the success is considered to be achieved.
If your life becomes many times better than before by struggling for these 10 days, then why can’t you change your habit? The second step is uncomfortable.
Its duration is 10 days. Although it is not as difficult as the first 10 days in this step, one does not feel like celebrating the joy of changing habits.
In this step too, one has to fight with oneself and maintain discipline. For example: if you don’t study, you won’t feel like studying at all for the first 10 days.
But for the next 10 days, you won’t have to work as hard as before to concentrate on your studies.
Then you just have to sit at the study table maintaining discipline. Now the third step. The name of this step is unstoppable. The duration of this time is from the 21st day to the 30th day.
At this stage you will be happy with your work. That is, if you continue to develop the habit of reading books, you will enjoy reading books at this stage.
If you have quit smoking, you will continue to enjoy it too. But after coming to this stage, you can’t stop suddenly.
You have to continue for 30 days maintaining patience and discipline. If you try to change any habit for 30 days, it is possible to achieve it firmly.
So you can use a calendar. One date will pass and you will cut it. This way, you can reach your desired goal.
So let’s summarize the discussion.
Step 1: identify the biggest problem and start the process of changing habits to change them. That is, one habit rule. Then, in the second step, remove all doubts or suspicions about the habit.
Search for all the information, facts, negative or positive aspects, then in the last step, set a 30-day plan. Change your habits by maintaining discipline for the last 30 days. May your journey be successful.
