Today, we will discuss a famous book, “You are a Badass,” so that you can start living your dream life. The book was written by Jen Sincero.
The main lesson of this book is how you can clear all the doubts running inside your mind. Let’s get started.
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Moves Number 1: What You Think About Yourself Matters Most
Your friends are smoking and asking you to smoke too. But you don’t smoke. Your friends might make fun of you, calling you a child. You start smoking to avoid being ridiculed.
They might start seeing you as their hero. But in your own eyes, you become a ‘zero’. But you know very well that smoking is harmful to your health.
But you did injustice to yourself to become a hero in front of your friends. Right here, the author, Sincero, says, you are a badass.
That is, you should never compromise with your true self in any situation. He, who is a badass, doesn’t care about what people say about him.
What he thinks about himself is mainly important.
Moves Number 2: Stop Blaming Others for Your Feelings
Imagine you are a very tall person. If someone now laughs at you, calls you short, would you get angry? Never.
But imagine, you wanted to join the army. But you were rejected because of your height.
Now if someone mocks you, calls you short, what will you do? Maybe you will get angry.
If someone asks you why you are angry, you might say that you are angry because you are being mocked for being short.
But the fact is, you couldn’t join the army because of your height. This has left a permanent mark on your mind.
Because you couldn’t fulfill your dream. And from here, you feel short in your own eyes. That’s why you are getting angry. How another person behaves towards you is their choice.
You can’t change that even if you want to. But what will you accept as true in your own mind? Are you short or tall? Is it good or bad to be short?
You can definitely control these thoughts. This is exactly what happens to us in every case. If someone insults you by calling you poor, and you feel bad, it means that you haven’t become as rich as you wanted to be in life.
So, you get angry when someone calls you poor. Therefore, the author says that if you are hurt by someone’s words, instead of blaming them, you should identify and change the negative thoughts hidden within you. Because this is a permanent solution.
Moves Number 3: Love Yourself First and Then Others
There are some things in life, such as: love, marriage, job, career. In most cases, we do things according to what others say about these things.
As a result, we have to regret it for the rest of our lives. If someone says something negative about us, we take it so seriously that, at one point, doubts arise within ourselves.
Even if we are told to take care of others’ bodies, we are indifferent to our own health. Bro! If you don’t have water in your own glass, how will you pour water into someone else’s cup?
So, like a badass, to get rid of all doubts about yourself and live a life like a dream, you must first love yourself.
The author of the book has given a lot of importance to this.
Moves Number 4: The Real Enemy of Your Dreams Lives in Your Mind
If you grew up watching your parents struggle financially from a young age, there is a possibility that you also consider acquiring wealth to be very difficult.
This is a major obstacle to your becoming rich. Because of these negative thoughts, you may not dare to take action even if a great opportunity comes your way.
The negative thoughts that arise within you scare you and prevent you from taking action. If you want to get rid of this, you have to replace those negative thoughts with positive ones.
For this, the author has advised you to think of things like: becoming rich is very easy. I will definitely be able to become rich.
As a result, the negative beliefs in your subconscious mind will be replaced with positive beliefs.
Moves Number 5: Always Maintain an Attitude Like a Player
From a young age, we have various dreams in our minds. But as we grow older, our dreams gradually fade.
Because as we grow up, we face various obstacles and our dreams come to an end. Also, if family and the people around us do not cooperate, dreams are destroyed at a rapid pace.
That’s why the author of ‘You are a badass’ said, think like you are a player.
Just as a player doesn’t quit playing after losing a game, but rather identifies their mistakes from the game and prepares themselves for the next game.
Similarly, if we face obstacles in our path, we should not give up.We have to identify our mistakes and forgive ourselves.
And we have to move forward with complete confidence like a badass.
Let’s take a look at the main topics of today’s discussion once again.
- What You Think About Yourself Matters Most
- You cannot blame others for your feelings.
- First love yourself, then love others.
- Negative thoughts are your biggest enemy. So identify them and change them with positive thoughts.
- Always Maintain an Attitude Like a Player
Always think of yourself as a player. Because if a player loses a game, they try to improve for the next game.
